jane kaczmarek bradley whitford 2007 gi Jane Kaczmarek on Bradley Whitford divorce: 'Just drop it and keep going.'Jane Kaczmarek‘s new TV movie is titled “Reviving Ophelia,” but she says it might as well be called “Reviving Jane.”

The former mom on “Malcolm in the Middle” returns to work for the first time in a year in the Monday, Oct. 11, Lifetime drama that casts her as the mother of a teen who’s in an abusive relationship. Relationship matters also kept Kaczmarek off screen as she dealt with her divorce from actor Bradley Whitford — the “West Wing” alum now on FOX’s “The Good Guys” — after almost 17 years of marriage.

“A very wise person said to me, ‘Nowadays, you can make a divorce anything you want it to be,'” Kaczmarek tells Zap2it. “It’s absolutely devastating, but then you really have to just drop it and keep going.

]]>Julia Roberts‘ recent movie version of the best seller “Eat Pray Love”
with helping her get into her current mindset. “I wasn’t a fan of the
book, which kind of irritated me,” Kaczmarek says, “but I saw that
movie the day after my divorce was finalized, and it’s like that
saying, ‘When the student is ready, the teacher presents himself.’

“At one point in the movie, that brilliant actor Richard Jenkins
says to [Roberts] when she’s talking about getting over the hurt and
the guilt, ‘You send him light, you send him love, and you drop it!’
You have no idea what the universe will open up for you, once you get
all that ‘stuff’ out of your head. This [divorce] was years in the
making, and I thought, ‘Just let it go.'”

The first step was the
phone call Kaczmarek made to Whitford as soon as she got home from
seeing the movie. “We started talking, and we talk on a regular basis
now. I don’t mean to make it sound easy or glib, but I have a very
definite idea of what kind of ex-wife I want to be, and what kind of
mother I want to be.

“That includes having him involved very
much in the kids’ lives, and if I’m carrying around all that resentment
toward him, that’s not gonna happen.”

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