After listening to “Red” approximately a zillion times, we’re not entirely sure that Taylor Swift qualifies as a relationship expert — just because you have a lot of relationships doesn’t mean you’re particularly good at it. Nonetheless, the country-crossover star is featured in the December/January issue of Seventeen Magazine, and she’s taking over their dating advice column.
Below, find a little taste of her brilliant, invaluable advice. For more gems of wisdom, pick up the issue on newsstands Nov. 20.
On what to do if you’re stuck in the friend zone:
“Remember that people have to fall in love with you because they want to, not because you want them to. The truth is, if you’re a girl and he’s a guy, he’s probably already considered you as an option and decided for whatever reason not to pursue it right now. Don’t chance ruining your friendship by chasing him before he’s ready. You just have to wait for him to turn it into something more, if and when he wants to.”
How to tell if he’s trouble:
“It sucks, but you can’t know for sure after just one date. All you can do is be honest and real with him as you get to know each other. Deciding not to play games is the best way to go because it keeps things simple: If he messes it up by playing around with your heart, you’ll know he doesn’t deserve you. You were real with him, and he didn’t return the courtesy. Someone else will!”
When is it time to tell a guy that your [sic] never ever getting back together?
“If you get into the habit of hiding your breakups and makeups from your friends and family because they roll their eyes at you, or no one can ever keep it straight if you guys are together or not…congratulations. You’re in an on-again, off-again relationship that’s gone on for way too long, and its time to end it for good!”