“Sex and the City” actress Cynthia Nixon (bald for her role as a cancer patient in “Wit”) is currently under fire for telling the Times that being gay is, for her, a choice. She had two children with a man before beginning her current relationship, with a woman. “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better,” she says. “I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a
choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.”
Many LGBT people and their supporters have protested Nixon’s choice of words, as the idea of people choosing to be gay is often used as ammunition from people working to pass and keep anti-gay legislation and to deny equal rights.
So why doesn’t Nixon say that she’s bisexual and be done with it? She answered the question in an interview with the Daily Beast. “I don’t pull out the ‘bisexual’ word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals,” she says, later adding, “We get no respect.”
When the reporter pointed out that by using the term “we,” Nixon was self-identifying as bisexual, she didn’t protest, exactly. “I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that
when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with
those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with
her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in
some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I
truly felt,” she says.
She also notes that perhaps future generations won’t be so concerned with the labels. “My kids–and the kids they go to school with–are all living in a
post-category world. It’s we older folks who are caught up in it.”