Selena Gomez might not be willing to talk about whether she is currently dating Justin Bieber, but she at least is willing to talk about what it’s like being at the center of public attention because of their romance.
“Sure, I knew people would talk about it,” Gomez tells The Observer of dating Bieber. “But I can’t be afraid to live my life. I had my first ‘boyfriend’ [Nick Jonas], which wasn’t really a boyfriend, at 14, 15. You’re young and you don’t know how to be. You don’t think: ‘Now I have a boyfriend — let’s keep it super-private and low key,’ because that’s not what you’re thinking about. You’re thinking about: ‘Oh my God, we’re holding hands!’ You’re just thinking about stuff like that.”
She continues, “Everybody falls in love and you would never want to hide something you’re so happy about. But I’ve learned a lot. You keep the things that are super-private to yourself. I definitely want to do that now. But it’s so hard.”
Clearly it is hard for Gomez, who every once in a while sneaks out a picture on her social media accounts that implies she and Bieber are on-again. It keeps people talking about her, even if she says that isn’t necessarily her intention.
“There’ll be days where I’m not bothered at all and I can just go out with my friends to the movies or walk around the park,” she says. “But when it gets frustrating, that’s when I call Taylor [Swift]. Or Demi [Lovato, both long-time friends]. Sometimes it will just be, like: ‘Urgh, people are talking about me!’ But then it feels gross [to complain], because it comes with what I love to do.”